| Are you sick of arguing and screaming and being | | | | 4. Display of inadequacy- I give up, don't expect |
| frustrated because your child does not listen to | | | | anything from me. I am helpless |
| you? Would you like to learn some tips that might | | | | What Do They Really Need? |
| help you gain a more cooperative family and | | | | They need parents who will parent and discipline |
| more peaceful environment to live in? Then | | | | them. The word discipline comes from the Greek |
| perhaps you would like to know why children | | | | word which means "to teach." Punishment is not |
| misbehave in the first place and how you should | | | | teaching. Positive Discipline involves guidance and |
| react in order to gain some sense of order and | | | | consistent effort on the part of the parents and |
| peace in your family. | | | | other adults who care for your children. |
| Why Children Misbehave | | | | Children need to know what is acceptable and |
| As a parent educator, I have seen many families | | | | what is not acceptable behavior. They need to |
| in chaos, simply because they are not holding | | | | know the boundaries that society expects them |
| family meetings and involving the children in | | | | to adhere to. They need to be taught right from |
| problem-solving. I have also seen families move | | | | wrong. |
| from anger to admiration in a matter of days or | | | | Build Self Esteem and Confidence |
| hours. A child with disrespectful behavior can turn | | | | A child's self esteem and confidence is formed |
| your home into a war zine where there is no | | | | very early and is created each day from words, |
| Peace and serenity. | | | | actions and skills taught by the adults who are |
| The Goals of Misbehavior | | | | caregivers. Self esteem doesn't depend on getting |
| | | | everything you want, when you want it. Instead, |
| 1. Attention- I want you to notice and serve me | | | | it builds from overcoming minor obstacles and |
| 2. Power-I belong when I am in control or being | | | | learning to accomplish small daily tasks. This |
| boss. | | | | confidence in learning how to handle your |
| 3. Revenge- I belong when I can hurt others as I | | | | emotions, responsiblities and environment is best |
| am being hurt. I want to get even | | | | taught and modeled by loving and caring parents. |