| Summertime is high season for cheating husbands. | | | | tacked on an extra day or two before or after a |
| Extramarital affairs flourish this time of the year. | | | | legitimate business trip so he can spend the time |
| Many men view summer infidelity as a | | | | with his lover? |
| recreational sport. Some men are seasonal | | | | Suspicious Separate Vacations |
| cheaters who only cheat when their wives are | | | | For months Tom had been trying to persuade |
| away on vacation. Other men are opportunistic | | | | Terry they should take separate vacations this |
| cheaters who cheat only when there's an | | | | year. His excuse was that he needed a break |
| opportunity do so without getting caught. For both | | | | from Terry and the kids. Tom's efforts to |
| types of cheaters, summer is the ideal time to | | | | convince her intensified as summer approached. |
| initiate an extramarital affair. | | | | Terry was against it because earlier that year she |
| Most Summer Affairs Go Undetected | | | | discovered Tom was cheating, and insisted that |
| According to statistics, 50% to 70% of husbands | | | | he end the affair. She was concerned that Tom |
| cheat on their wives. A good percentage of these | | | | might use his vacation time to re-connect with his |
| affairs take place during the summer months. | | | | mistress. To safeguard her marriage, while giving |
| Most of this infidelity goes undetected. Studies | | | | Tom the benefit of the doubt, Terry found a |
| reveal that 2/3 of women whose husbands are | | | | place where they could vacation as a family, while |
| cheating have no idea their husbands are having | | | | still having their own space. The resort she chose |
| an affair. These cheating husbands have several | | | | offered spa treatments, sunbathing and shopping |
| ways hide their summer affairs. | | | | during the day for her, golfing and water sports |
| Husbands Play When the Wife is Away | | | | for Tom, a daycare program for their 4 year old, |
| Sharon and Fred always rent a beach house | | | | and supervised youth activities for their |
| during the summer months. Fred works in the city | | | | 13-year-old daughter, and their boys, ages 8 and |
| but drives out to be with his family on weekends, | | | | 10. In the evening, Tom, Terry and the kids |
| returning on Sunday evening for work the next | | | | regrouped as a family and dined together. |
| week. One Wednesday, while the kids were next | | | | Has your husband suggested that the two of you |
| door with their friends planning a big beach party, | | | | take separate vacations this year? Do you know |
| Sharon took a train back to the city to pick up | | | | where he plans to go, or who he'll be vacationing |
| some party favors from a closet in their | | | | with? He could be laying the groundwork for a |
| apartment that she thought the kids could use. | | | | summer affair. Will he be living it up in Las Vegas |
| When Sharon entered the apartment, she found | | | | with his lover while you're indulging in a week of |
| 2 wine glasses on the kitchen counter, the | | | | pampering at a spa? If you have reason to |
| remains of a dinner for two, and candles on the | | | | suspect that your husband could be cheating, you |
| dining table that had burnt down halfway. In their | | | | may want to re-think your summer plans. |
| bedroom, on the unmade bed were satin sheets | | | | What to Do About Summer Affairs |
| she'd never seen before, and an empty | | | | If you see telltale signs of a summer affair |
| champagne bottle on the nightstand next to the | | | | developing or actually taking place, speak up! |
| bed. | | | | Ignoring it won't make it go away. Let your |
| Some husbands routinely send the wife and kids | | | | husband know you're aware of what's going on |
| to the beach, the lake, the country, or to visit | | | | and tell him you want it to stop. If you let him |
| relatives in another state. What's your husband up | | | | think he's getting away with his affair or that he |
| to while you and the kids are away? Do you | | | | has your silent approval, he'll feel free to do it |
| know where he is, who he's with, or how he's | | | | again next summer. Or worse, he may continue it |
| spending his time? Instead of sitting home alone | | | | throughout the year. Though summer affairs |
| eating a TV dinner, he could be wining and dining | | | | usually have a built-in expiration date, some |
| his ladylove. | | | | cheaters turn their summer flings into a |
| Fictitious Fishing Trips and other Lies | | | | permanent state of affairs. Your husband could |
| Marcy never gave it a second thought when Hank | | | | become so attached to his mistress, that he |
| left early one morning for a 3-day fishing trip with | | | | moves in with her or asks you for a divorce. |
| the guys. That afternoon, her neighbor asked to | | | | Precautions To Take |
| borrow Hank's pruning shears. Imagine Marcy's | | | | Does this mean you should forego renting that |
| surprise when she went to the storage shed to | | | | beach house for the summer or put that 2-week |
| get the shears and found Hank's tackle box sitting | | | | trip to your parents on hold? If you've seen |
| in the corner and his fishing rod leaning against the | | | | suspicious behavior or signs of infidelity during the |
| wall. | | | | past few weeks or months, this is not a good |
| Cheating husbands frequently disguise vacations | | | | time for you to be away. |
| with their mistress as fishing, camping or rafting | | | | If your husband is a seasonal or opportunistic |
| trips with the guys. Men know that outdoor | | | | cheater, don't make it easy for him to cheat. |
| activities and other forms of male bonding are | | | | Stay close to home, keep tabs on him, and stay |
| unlikely to be questioned by their wives. Is he | | | | alert. Follow the suggestions my tip sheet, "How |
| really hiking the Appalachian Trail with his buddies? | | | | to Prevent or Short-Circuit Your Husband's |
| Or is he soaking up sun in St. Thomas with his | | | | Summer Affair." Plan your summer so he won't |
| summer sweetheart? | | | | have the time or the opportunity to get involved |
| Bogus Business Trips | | | | in a summer affair. Safeguard your marriage by |
| Feeling uneasy about her husband Larry's business | | | | putting some checks and balances in place. Plan |
| trip, Claire called his office pretending to be a client | | | | summer activities for the whole family and a |
| needing to get in touch with him. She was told | | | | several romantic weekends for two. Heed this |
| that Larry was on vacation (not at the business | | | | advice, and you won't have to wonder where |
| conference he told Clare he was attending) and | | | | your husband is this summer -- you'll know, |
| would be unreachable by phone until the following | | | | because he'll be with you. |
| week. | | | | More Information about Summer Infidelity |
| Trysts with the mistress are often disguised as | | | | To request a FREE tip sheet which lists the telltale |
| bogus business trips. Even valid business trips can | | | | signs of a summer affair and gives tips on how |
| provide the perfect opportunity to cheat away | | | | to short circuit your husband's summer affair, or |
| from prying eyes. While he's attending that | | | | prevent him from having one at all, send an e-mail |
| summer business conference without you, a | | | | to with "Summer Infidelity" in the subject line. |
| budding office romance could blossom into a full | | | | © copyright 2005 Ruth Houston All rights |
| blown affair. Are his trips occurring more | | | | reserved. |
| frequently or lasting longer than usual? Has he | | | | |