Helping Your Child Deal With The Birth Of A New Sibling

u’re pregnant with your second child,don’t try potty training, or changing her
it’s time to be thinking about how tosleeping arrangements during this time. If you
prepare your first child to deal with “notcan’t get these things accomplished
being an only child” anymore. This can bebefore the baby comes, plan to put it off a few
a difficult transition for any child, and most,months.
regardless of age, have some adjustments to· Familiarize her with babies in general,
make. Here are some suggestions to help yourparticularly the amount of care they require. Talk
child be prepared.to her about when she was a baby, and all the
· Talk about how special it is to be a bigthings that she did. Then when the new baby
brother or sister. Discuss the baby in terms ofcomes, she will have something to relate to.
how important the older sibling will be in its life.· Let her assist you with any baby
This is your child’s chance to be the bigpreparations that she would like to help with, but
kid, which is usually a very appealing idea.don’t force her. She might think its fun to
· If you’ve been thinking aboutpick out nursery items, for example.
putting your child into a preschool program, now is· Prepare her for the time you’ll
the time. Don’t wait until after the babybe spending in the hospital, and explain what the
comes, or she might feel like you’re tryingsituation will be like. If you can make it special for
to get rid of her. She should have time to makeher, so much the better. When my daughter was
friends and get adjusted before the baby comes,born, we had arranged for my four year old
and then she will enjoy the chance to get away.son’s favorite aunt and uncle to come and
· Get her used to being away from you.stay with him at our house while I was in the
If your child spends most of her waking hours inhospital. He was looking so forward to their visit;
your care, it’s time to start havinghe hardly noticed I was away.
someone else take over some of this time forNo matter how well you prepare your child, there
you. Maybe start using a sitter a little more, oris bound to be some difficulty in adjusting to the
sending her to play at a friend’s. Thisnew baby. My son thought his little sister was
way, when the baby starts to demand yourcool, but he didn’t much care for the fact
attention, she will be accustomed to having otherthat I was her Mommy, too. It takes a little time,
caretakers.but things work out well in the end. And, anything
· Don’t plan any major changesyou can do to prepare them ahead of time will
for her right after the baby is born. Theonly make the transition easier.
adjustment to the baby is plenty, so