Day Care and Pre-school Jitters - Make Transition Time

Where did the summer go? I will bet all of youbars and a piece of fruit or a bowl of cereal in the
are wondering the same thing. It is time for backmorning.
to school and daycare if your children have been4. Help them to be a good friend. Most children
cared for by summer help. This feeling ofare fearful that others won't like them or choose
newness will last for a few weeks, so beto play with them. Your job as a caring adult is to
prepared for some resistance to a new schedulehelp them to be the kind of friend others will
or transition to a different environment. Day carewant to be with. As they learn to be kind, helpful,
and pre-school jitters are pretty common.Let'sloyal and fun to be around, other children will be
see if we can find some tips to make transitiondrawn to them naturally.
time easier on children, parents, teachers and day5. Model enthusiasm and a love for learning. Help
care providers.your child to know that you and the whole family
will be excited to share what he/she has learned
1. Calm their first day jitters with encouragingthat day. Set aside a special time to regroup
words and open discussion. Children are naturally(ideally at the dinner table) and share what each
nervous about new situations. The more calm youone of you has learned that is new. This will help
are when discussing upcoming experiences, theall members of the family be grateful for new
less nervous and upset he or she will be. Askinformation and it will reinforce lessons and ideas.
them what questions or concerns they may haveThis is very important as we want our young
and then answer honestly and find out anythingchildren to be eager to look for new and creative
you don't know. Typical questions may be whatways to solve problems.
time you will take them, where they will put theirTransitions back to school, starting pre-school or
things, what they will have to eat, how and whenday care can be tough on everyone including
they will get home etc.parents.We need to recognize that many
2. Visit the day care or school ahead of time.emotions will be coming to the surface as we
Even if you can't attend a back to school night oradjust to a new schedule and routine. Be patient
event, be sure you visit with your child at thewith yourself and your child and soon everyone
facility to ease anxiety. The more a child is familiarwill know what to expect.
with the situation the less they will have to fear.As caring, loving adults we want to make the
Be very sure that while you teach them to betransition as easy as possible. Our job is to help
aware of their surroundings, that you also teachour kids to help themselves as they move
them to not be afraid.towards personal responsibility and education. We
3. Let your child have some choice and voice indon't want to do everything for them, but we do
the decision making. No, I do not mean that hewant to make it as easy as we can for them to
she may choose whether to go to school orsucceed.
which school to attend. I mean that they beYou are doing the most important job in the
offered a choice of a red backpack or a blue one.world and I salute you.
Perhaps you could ask if they would prefer cereal