Caregivers - Improve Your Communication Skills to Make Life Easier

Good communication is essential to providing safethings alone sends a strong message about how
and effective care. As a caregiver you aremuch the conversation means to you. Put aside
involved in extremely high level communicationsmulti-tasking! Stop texting, folding laundry or going
on a regular basis: with doctors, family members,through paperwork, and focus only on the
home health care providers, insurance companies,conversation.o Listen: When you really focus on
and of course, the person you're caring for.what the other person is saying, you will of
As a caregiver myself, I know that words arecourse be more able to respond in a thoughtful,
hard to find when there's been a bad diagnosis ormeaningful way. Sharpening your listening skills will
a setback in treatment. This is scary andalso help you be a better advocate for the
unfamiliar territory for most of us. Conversationperson you're caring for. You will be able to move
can be tough to start when feelings of guilt,ahead with confidence that you are
worry and fear are swirling around inside.communicating their exact wishes to others in
If your loved one is dealing with depression ortheir circle of care. Listen critically so that you're
anxiety (which is quite normal during these lifesure you're hearing what the person is actually
passages), you may feel shut out or like you justsaying - instead of, perhaps, what you want to
can't say anything right. Trying to talk withhear.o Analyze: Watch the person you're talking
someone who doesn't want to let anyone in canwith as they speak to you. Do their actions
be extremely frustrating.match their words? When we are scared, angry
Here are some tips to help you to maximize youror worried, we sometimes say things we don't
moments with your loved one:o Breathe: Pausingmean. Use your skills of analysis before you react.
for a good deep breath in and out will help youYou may be able to pick up on a nervous
relax and pull your thoughts together. Ifexpression or gesture that leads you to ask
communication becomes tense or difficult, anotherfollow-up questions and get to the heart of what
deep breath will help to keep you calm andthe person is really trying to say.
focused.o Focus: Pay attention to body language.Caregiving isn't always easy, but it comes with
These are the messages you send to others bybenefits! Using the experience as an opportunity
the way you hold your body. Position your bodyto strengthen and deepen a relationship is one of
so that you are slightly leaning toward the personthe big ones.
to show that you are engaged. Doing those two