| Making the decision to care for a disabled adult is | | | | developmental levels. Youve stepped up to |
| a life altering resolution to an already difficult | | | | the plate, so realistically, where do YOU want to |
| situation. Weather a sibling or non-family member, | | | | go from here. More is better when it comes to |
| the decision to become a caregiver for a disabled | | | | independence but always keep in mind each |
| adult means change. Once, a mother of a disabled | | | | persons limitations. For this article, |
| child once said it was like learning to live in Holland. | | | | Im assuming there is a degree of |
| In a lot of ways, her comparison was valid. As | | | | independence possible. Self care and |
| the parent of a disabled child you learn a new | | | | communicative skills are required to move beyond |
| language and how to live in a completely new | | | | custodial care and into the world of community |
| environment with a new focus in life. Every choice | | | | integration. All things considered, you must be the |
| made reflects whats best for my | | | | judge of the disabled persons ability to |
| child. | | | | learn job skills and integrate socially. Training time |
| When you make the decision to accept | | | | is not important. Weather it takes a week or a |
| responsibility for a disabled adult, it mirrors many | | | | month, learning a skill is the key. Rule of thumb, if |
| of the same issues. The only trouble is, the | | | | a disabled person can keep the house, his room |
| inroads made over a lifetime of care giving by | | | | and bathroom clean, than he can be a dining room |
| parents are not automatically transferred to the | | | | attendant at a fast food restaurant. If the |
| new care giver. State, county, and local contacts | | | | disabled person conducts themselves appropriately |
| for assistance programs are seldom passed along. | | | | in social settings, theyre ready for |
| Dealing with waiver and support programs can be | | | | community integration. |
| confusing and at times, a gauntlet most people | | | | Find a program. Make calls. Dont stop |
| find impossible to manage. That said, if a | | | | reaching out. The Internet is the best possible |
| caregiver you must be, then first face some | | | | search tool. Dont stop until you find a |
| facts. Youre moving to Holland and your | | | | program that fits your disabled adults |
| life is changing. | | | | needs. |
| My experience is in Texas and that said, I will | | | | Persistence is important. Sign up for every |
| refer to state specific issues. Each state will have | | | | qualifying program, dont stop calling until |
| similar initiatives; some will provide better | | | | its active and finally and foremost keep |
| programs, while other states will offer little in | | | | good records. Use an expanding file folder, make |
| supported services. First do an Internet search of | | | | a file folder for each program, save |
| state services. | | | | correspondence, make copies of letters and |
| [ | | | | forms you send out and keep notes on every |
| [ | | | | verbal and telephone conversation. |
| Use your state as the source and search for | | | | Its hard to imagine administrators of |
| disability services. In the search engine text option | | | | programs could possibly be selective in application |
| use words; Your county Your | | | | of policies but it happens all the time. If a program |
| State Disability, Rehabilitation, Services. | | | | has a waiting list, ask the number on the list. Call |
| Then Search. If disabled, most adults qualify for | | | | back every few months and make someone |
| Social Security Income (SSI). Its not much | | | | provide a status. Get names. Be able to tell the |
| assistance financially, but with it the disabled adult | | | | next person the history on a subject including |
| qualifies for Medicaid. That covers some financial | | | | dates and who you spoke with. |
| assistance and medical insurance. Thats | | | | Last but definitely not least. Join a support group. |
| basics but we all know, thats not the | | | | Association of Retarded Citizens (ARC) is a |
| ultimate goal. | | | | national organization. The ARC has social events |
| This is the time to get real investigative. As you | | | | for the disabled, caregiver training and state |
| well know, individuals with a disability have varying | | | | government inter-action and advocacy programs. |