ADHD Kids Want Out of the Box

Children diagnosed as potentially having ADHD areIf you trust that children by nature are curious
no strangers to scolding and trouble. Continuingand want to learn you will take them out of that
the scolding and reprimands rarely brings abouthorrible box of labels. Give them a new box to
the desired positive results you were seeking.get into that is filled with joy, trust, and love. You
Children thrive with positive attention but so oftenwill start to develop a new way to listen to their
the focus tends to be on everything they haveideas, their questions, and begin to learn what
done wrong and little on what they are doing right.they are trying to teach you. These little kids are
We put them in a box with horrible labelsmiracles and have many messages to share with
stamped all over the outside as if to say,us all.
"Damaged Goods Beware."Kids want to be loved. They want to please you
I can remember when teachers, relatives andand at the same time be given the opportunity to
other adults started to label me and what it feltbe happy. The best way to parent your child is to
like. I was sad, confused and hurt as I waslet go of your fears and judgments, find
constantly being striped of my identity and givenenvironments that are right for them to thrive
another one that seemed to work better forand show them unconditional love.
some so called caring adults. These harshI have found that it is better to have a thriving,
judgments where deciding my future and who Ihappy, smiling, bouncing, bubbly child than a sad,
was to become. I began to ask myself, " Whydepressed, lethargic, unstable, miserable, defiant,
was I not liked? Why was there such a need formouthy, angry and drugged child so society can
me to focus on silly things that I did not caremold him/her into a robot that stands single file
about? Why was I expected to sit still when all Iand does as their told.
wanted to do was run and play?"Our country was built on the fundamental right
The noise grew louder and louder with everyonethat each citizen has the "inalienable rights" to
shouting and yelling. Sit Down. Be Still. Focus. Stoppursue happiness. Adults need to lead by example
Day Dreaming. I started to tune everyone outand get happy themselves. Stop Telling and Start
with each negative remark. I grew further inwardShowing. We should stop worrying about
where it was safe in my own little world. Thetomorrow and remember they are kids. They are
razor sharp words could not hurt me so Ithe key to the future and they are the only
became numb.expression of them that the world will ever know.
I really wanted to be understood. I wanted moreIt is time to create a HUGE box for them to live
than anything to just be ME. I was a little kid freeinto. One filled with all the brilliance and
spirited with loads of life and wonder. I had a lotmagnificence that they already are if we just
of energy that would sometime spike with highswould open our eye to see.
but in other times I just wanted to go twiddle aShow them your love, Find new ways to parent
stick under a tree.your kids from a please of them teaching you
Childhood and all it's beauty is becoming a lostrather than you thinking you know what they
treasure. Children are expected to grow up wayneed and what you think is right for them. They
too early. Many are whisked off to a Pre Kknow where they are headed and it is each one
program at schools when they are as young as 3.of our jobs to support them on their journey.
There is such a fear to get them ready forAnd what a wonderful journey it is for us all to
school to learn that we are taking away the mainshare.
place they need to be, PLAYING.