3 Things They Don't Tell You About Preschool

Parents often want to enroll their child in amoment because he was learning to cope with
preschool program to give them the opportunitythe need to share.
to become familiar with groups of children and to2. Preschool can be a vicious and savage place.
help them become familiar with school routines.Civilization may appear to be tossed out the
Those children who have had this opportunitywindow. When children are learning to use muscles
often make the transition to a kindergartento speak, have a limited vocabulary, or have an
program with ease. Those who have not mayexcitable personality they sometimes resort to
experience difficulties.what I refer to as the "Short-Cut Resolution Plan."
As a parent and as a teacher we need to keep inStated simply, a nip on the arm here, a pinch on
mind some very valid points about preschool.the cheek there, or a bop on the head is likely to
These considerations are so common place that(temporarily) get you what you want. The jury is
even professionals forget to mention them tostill out as to who is the most frightened over
parents interested in enrolling their child in athis behavior. First the aggressor can be shocked
program.over his loss of self-control. The victim is shocked,
1. Remember that preschool is not all fun. Whatmay be physical or emotionally hurt, and doesn't
may look like a beautiful setting filled with brightlyknow how to respond. Teachers too can be
colored toys may not appear the same to yourstunned for this type of behavior may come
child. For every sought after toy there isfrom someone who previously has never been
someone out there who also wants it. Childrenknown to resort to such tactics. And of course,
can be tough customers and they are usually notsending a child home with a bite mark does not
willing to give their treasures away easily. Evenmake parents pleased.
when offered a duplicate toy, what an adult may3. Preschools are a hotbed of germs. Why?
think is the exact toy, it is more than likely theBecause small children are just learning about
child will have found some slight difference thathealth habits. Even when they know what to do
remains unnoticed by the supervising adult.when they sneeze or have a runny nose they
Sharing does not come free. Learning to shareoften forget. They are busy playing.
comes with a price tag...sometimes with tears,Since children receive their immunizations at
bites, scratches, pouting, screaming, or anydifferent ages, there will always be children who
variation and combination of the aforementionedhave not received their complete immunization
coping techniques.until age two. There are also children who opt out
One haggard looking parent told me she wasof immunization and these children can be in
under such pressure to get her child to nurseryclasses of all ages.
school very early. From the moment he awokeFor parents who are considering a preschool
he wanted to get out of the house and get toprogram it is often comforting to know that
school. When I told this mother she had morechildren experience their own stress in a preschool
than enough time and that even an occasionalprogram. Learning how to live in a group of
tardiness was not something to be concernedchildren your own age, follow rules, share toys
about, she responded, "Oh, no, you don'tand attention, focus on an academic project,
understand. My son knows they all go into the bigtakes time. Armed with the knowledge that it is
playroom the first thing in the morning. And if henormal for children to experience this anxiety a
doesn't get here early to get his special tricycleparent and school staff can seek ways to help a
his day is absolutely ruined. No other tricycle willchild cope.
do." Preschool was not fun for that child at that